Wednesday, 17 September 2014

I Just want A Bit Part In Your Life

Sometimes I really miss Mr B. It kind of seems like an odd thing for me to say maybe, but it doesn't make it any less true. I guess I need to clarify. We're lucky enough that Mr B has a good job and I get to be a stay at home mom to Small, and Mr B spends some of his time working from home too. However I'm sure any parent with young children can relate - we just never seem to get any quality time as a couple. Try as we might, when we do get a second to talk the objective often seems to be to relay all the important yet mundane points of the day. I know you know what I mean - "we need to buy more nappies" or some half asleep unintelligible thing about washing maybe. You get my point.

Then there are the lifestyle choices. I know that cosleeping was the best thing for Small, for both her emotional and social development but at almost 2 1/2 we feel the time is right and we are trying to transition her to her own room. This is easier said than done. We're making progress, but it's slow. Many evening & night time wake ups mean we don't really get any time together then either. I just have to keep reminding myself that this is just a phase of Small's life and it won't be forever (although I already feel like she's growing up too fast!).

I guess I've really realised how much even good relationships need work and attention to flourish when there are children in the picture. It's the little things that matter.

What I'm trying to say is - Mr B, I love you with all my heart. You are an amazing daddy & thank you for working so hard so that Small & I can hang out.

1 comment:

  1. Such a sweet and honest post (hope that doesn't sounds patronising). Totally know what you mean re. quality time with the husband. We don't get it very often, and with baby no.2 due in November it's going to be even less. I stay at home with Theo and goodness looking after a toddler is exhausting; I'm impressed with anyone who co-sleeps. I think I'd find it overwhelming and difficult. I love looking after Theo but I also love the refuge of my own bed. Hope the transition gets easier for you all soon. xxxx